The Misplaced Happiness…

Is it easy to have what you want,when you know what you want? The question itself is a tongue twister, can’t imagine how the answer will look like.

On the blessed day of my life, I realized all I want is to be HAPPY. Though it has solved one issue for me, it brought quite a few along with it.

The first question crossed my mind how to define Happiness? I love Google, after my Dad offcource. And since it was available for me right there I took it’s help to define it for me.

So the definition, “ happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy” I used it for defining the path of achieving the ultimate goal.

Now the next stop was to determine what brings in Mental or Emotional well being. The Magic word for me was “SHOPPING”. The more I spent the better it felt. Giving away lavish gifts to my parents was my way of showing gratitude towards them. So I have ultimately found ‘Happiness’.

The more I spent the more I wanted to earn and I felt like a guinea pig on a exercise cycle. In the meanwhile two things were happening………

1. I was no way close being Happy

2. I was confused and angry

On my Mom’s birthday I wanted to take her on a lavish dinner and my parents are not ready to go. So my Mom ended up cooking a feast for all of us on her birthday.

I was grumpy, and was nagging my Dad on how bad it is that she has to cook on her birthday. So the discussion started his question ‘Do you know the difference with Happiness and Pleasure?” We have a bad network at home and so I didn’t have the answer.

He started with ,you are worse than 6 years old (though he still treats me like one).

This is what he had to say, ‘Going out and spending money gives you pleasure, but for your mother happiness is having us around, chatting and enjoying her food’. During all this conversation, Mom was smiling and I realized I have a long way ahead.

I have realized, I have misplaced Happiness………………

Current Status: Still looking for the path which will lead me to my Goal 🙂

 

 

What you want?

Blessed are the souls who have found their shores, rest of us are still wandering deep in Sea.

I am 33 and presume that almost half way through leaving my life.  My strength , I am brutally honest to myself and these is something I have been most consistent with.

Keeping up with the honesty, I was never sure what I want and till today I am not very sure. When I was a kid, I wanted to become Doctor, then I wanted to become a Police Officer, then wanted to get married to one of play buddy……………. the list just went on and on. I ended up doing none of the things.

I became an Engineer and started working for Pride. Still not knowing what I want.But in all the chaotic and hectic choices that life has given me and no matter what chosen, I realized few things.

1.  I want to be Happy & Strong.

2. I am blessed that I have a choice.

As I grew older ( I hate to admit), I found more and more people have the same want. And the best thing about it everyone can be happy. The cosmic powers have enough energy to lighten very corner of the planet.

But the Starting Point is to acknowledge to oneself that we have all the right to be happy.